When Beyoncé dropped her maternity shot on Instagram last week I scrolled down my timeline seeing that same tired photo the entire day. It was beautiful, but got me thinking: some of us won’t even repost a flyer supporting our own friends’ endeavors.
One of the biggest things I noticed in my 20s is Black people do not support each other like other cultures. For instance, we do not support one another’s businesses without trying to swindle a discount, or when we are in a position to help we would rather help someone else because hiring another Black woman becomes a competition. Not to mention, all the mess we talk about the emotionally unstable half-naked frenemy on Instagram but don’t take the time to mentor her.
Why?
The truth is, I do not know why nor do I understand it but I wanted to call it out and evoke some kind of change.
When one of my best friends launched her clothing line I was the first one signing up for a pre-order and posing in my selfies on Instagram and posting them, even if it is to my mere 700 followers. I supported her because she always supported me. I knew she would be successful but her success was conducive to the support of family and friends. And no, just because you are supporting your friend does not automatically mean discount, this isn’t State Farm!
Asking for a discount isn’t cool when someone is trying to launch their business, they have expenses too. If they gave all of their friends a discount where would that financially leave their business? I’ll tell you where, right where they started – at the beginning.
This is why I never asked for a discount and you shouldn’t either. You are willing to spend a $100 on boss babes Draya or Heather Saunders self-started businesses, so why not invest in your friends the same way.
We should invest in one another not just in entrepreneurial endeavors but also in Corporate America. We have to stick together, especially the young professionals entering the workforce. Black women in particular have to stop looking at other black women as competition but instead as an ally. If you work for a business and you know another young woman (or man) trying to position themselves for success why not be that lending hand –mentor them and set them up for success in an industry that is already set up against us. We complain about equal rights and opportunity but rob one another of this very thing. That’s not to say help everyone you encounter, there are some people I wouldn’t stamp my favorite color on, let alone my name.
And to those people you don’t necessarily want to be associated with, at the very least don’t talk about them. Though they may be three much, take a moment to realize that we used to be that same person until someone came along and helped us either directly or indirectly. We all are at different chapters in our story but that doesn’t mean you didn’t begin on the same page. Take a step back to see how you can positively influence that young man or woman.
I have someone I see major potential in so my goal for this Black History month is to invest in her growth and support her like someone did for me.
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